Minimum age is 21 years old!!

ClubFEM® New Jersey is a friendly, social, yet private group.  We have high standards in place to further the interests of our membership and promote activities in our chosen Lifestyle. Members are chosen for their like mindedness, character, social acuity and loyalty, among other desirable traits.

Existing members will always take preference over incoming members and if a conflict of any sort, benign though it may be, presents itself, membership might not be offered.  If you disagree with denial of membership, an appeals process may be offered to you at the discretion of the ClubFEM® New Jersey’s HeadMistress and Advisory Committee.

One of the core principals of ClubFEM® New Jersey is that of protecting our members and the integrity of the organization. We value our privacy highly and many of our members have private parts of their lives that depend on our discretion. Read our Privacy Policy HERE. We all have vanilla lives and everyone is expected to respect and honor the privacy of this group.

To be considered for membership, you must first submit a membership application and be invited to attend at least 2 ClubFEM® New Jersey Munches so we can get to know you. For those who are well known to our Head Mistress and Advisory Committee, the process may be expedited. Our Open Munches and Events will be announced on this site and/or on Fetlife.

By completing an application and submitting it for review, applicants agree to disclose truthful information as well as provide character references. A criminal background check may be run in certain cases. In the criminal background check, what we care most about are crimes related to violence, stalking, harrasment, and crimes against women or children.  Once the needed information is used for the background check, it will be securely deleted.

Completing an application and an interview does NOT automatically guarantee an invitation to any ClubFEM® New Jersey events, munches, or private parties.  Decisions about membership are made by the ClubFEM® New Jersey HeadMistress and Advisory Committee. Once an application is received, a Committee member will contact each applicant for an in-person or zoom interview.

In order to be considered an active member, we expect participation throughout the year. This does not mean you are required to attend every single event, however we do expect to see you at some munches and events as often as possible. We are very aware that life happens and it is impossible to be all places at all times, however if you are going to join this organization, active participation is expected.

Membership may be revoked at any time by the HeadMistress.

There may be a fee associated with event attendance, and you are expected to cover your personal expenses as well as a generous tip for the service staff for our munches.  Donations to ClubFEM® New Jersey are always welcome, which go toward the club’s expenses such as the web site, web hosting, application processing, and play space rental.

Members of other ClubFEM® chapters may contact the ClubFEM®NJ HeadMistress to request to attend socials and events.  ClubFEM®NJ members in good standing may reach out likewise and attend events in other chapters if permitted.  ClubFEM® is a diverse international organization and we pride ourselves in being supportive to our fellow chapters. ClubFEM®NJ Diversity Statement.

 If you are in need of further assistance or have a question, please visit our Contact page and submit your query.